Friendship

Friends. What are these? Do we need them? Do they need us? Why do we bother?



So I went to the dictionary (first google search really) and found this :

Friend

–noun

1.	a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.

2.	a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter: friends of the Boston Symphony.

3.	a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile: Who goes there? Friend or foe?

4.	a member of the same nation, party, etc.

5.	(initial capital letter) a member of the Religious Society of Friends; a Quaker.

So it seems that a friend is a very relative term. It can be anything from someone who has feelings for you, to just somone who is not hostile to you.

Looking deeper, I think it is human nature to search for company. We naturally go out and look for someone who shares the same intrests, or at least accepts us. Perhaps some primal instinc to gather in packs for security? Whatever the reason, we need these relationships in order to be well with ourselves.
Well, ok I agree, we all need our alone moments, but think on this, would you want to be alone for ever? Not a single soul here on planet Earth to be with you? I'd rather not, thank you. Because, it's in the presence of others that we are happier. If you think on your happiest moment yet, you'll realize you weren't alone. So, yes, we do need friends. Friends are what holds us here.

But I have yet to define what a friend is. And the dictionary didn't do much good (as I knew it wouldn't), because it's such a relative definition. It really depends on what you are looking for.
In my point of view, there are 3 types of friends :

For myself, I consider a friend someone whom I can trust and depend on. Someone whom I can tell anything, knowing he/she/it won't tell a soul about it. Somoene who interferes on your behalf, behind your back sometimes, to look after your best interests, when you are not there to defend yourself. This, I consider a true friend. If you are lucky, you can count some of these in your circle.

Then, you have those regular friends. they are there for you, ok. But if stuff gets too hard, too tough, you'll see them vanish in a blink of an eye. You tell them something, hoping they won't share it.Despite this, they support you, help you, may lead you to the right path. Therefore, I call them just Friends. Probably the most of your circle.

Finally, the other type are those that come and go as time goes by, reappearing sometimes, disappearing the rest. And when they do come, it's just to ask something from you. You probably can count on them, they'll probably be there. But you never know. This, I simply call acquaintances.

So, all I have to say now is this. Look at yourself, without anything bloking your view, and ask yourself. What kind of friend are you to your friends? I'm hoping you are not just an acquaintance. And if you are a friend, or even a true friend, then the answer to the question 'do they need us?' is absolutly and completly obvious. Of course they do! And let me congratlate you, if you realy are one of these.

And finally, why bother? The answer is resumed to this simple sentence : 'United we are stronger'. Alone, in this world, we'll go nowhere. Fast. And when we reach that, there's no turning back. Not now. Not ever. So STOP. Think. Act. Change (if you need). Before its to late.

Cya later

Fen

Emotionless

Today I started to think about emotions. These feelings that drive us daily. The hurt that they cause us. The dmage that they make. That beast that makes men and women alike to (re)act, despite better judgemt. We are slaves to this beast. We cannot live without it. Love. Hate. Rage.Calm. What would we be without these?And most importantly, why do we act upon these?

What kind of world would this be, if there was no emotions? A cinnical one , that's for sure. A logical one? A reasonable one? A peacefull one perhaps? Because greed is also an emotion, and greed creates war (or enhances them).So I think its fair to assume that without emotions there would be no war. Perhaps not even crime. Perhaps not even happiness. Joy.
So, it would not be perfect, and I came to this conclusion.

I think that, in the end, it all comes down to one big reason. We only live once (I may debate this further on, but for today, let's us assume this is correct). And we NEED to feel alive. Emotions makes us fell alive. Its flesh versus spirit, and I'm afraid to say, flesh wins. It's this simple. I said above that this world would be a peacefull place if we were emotionless. And I stand by that. But, a peacefull world, whee noone enjoys that peace, is not a world I desire. We need emotions to enjoy all that's around us. We feel alive when we are happy. We feel alive when we are in love. When we rage, and we do this alot, the heat of a moment makes us feel alive.

And so I came to the conclusion that emotions are what defines our lifes. We could not be trully alive, if we never felt alive. And as to emotions hurting people. Well, we do act upon emotions to feel alive, and as someone once said, the next man's pain is another man's pleasure. It's all a big game , where each and everyone of us try to live by, where noone wins or loses, we just play the game. And someone just lost it.

Well cya later.

Fen

Illumination

Today I realized something. And as naive as it may sound, I realized that i'd rather be a guy who makes himself look life a fool while trying, than the guy who stays "safely" behind the "I'd rather wait for the best chance possible", and therefore, never acts!

As of today, I have a newway to look at life! I will no longer linger in the shadow and wait for a better chance, I will no longer wait for the right time. I'll simply make the right time, I'll create the better chance! I'ts do or die. (pardon me the expression).

Because (and this is what I realized), if you keep on waiting for the right time, you will just be making excuses NOT to do it. And in the end, when you don't do it, you'll just say ..."nah, it wasn't important, it would't have worked , it would just make me unhappy when I failed" . I'm tired of this. What if it was your chance of a lifetime? What if that girl (for whom you are waiting for the right time , and keep on waiting untill she just finds another guy) is actualy your soulmate?
Wouldn't you rather give it a try? Ask yourself this, what's the worst thing that can happen?

The worst thing that can happen is: you do make yourself look like a fool , and you failed at something you wanted to do. (ask a girl out , get that job enterview, make peace with that friend, etc). So yes, you MAY look life a fool. You MAY be unhappy but, and I speak for myself, I think i can take a little humilliation. it doesn't kill me , therefore it makes me stronger! And, if you dont fail, the reward will be simply awesome. You tried. You succeded. Is there anything better?

So, I think I'll start doing stuff, instead of just waiting.

This is what I learned today.

Cya later.

Fen

Hello World

Well, today I felt the need to have a place where I could just lay my thoughts , somewhere I could write. Somewhere I could let go of all frustrations.

So I created a blog.

Today, 26 / 03 / 09 marks the beggining of what I hope will be a great blog. Lets see if I can go through with this.

And, if you know me, you may ask...Why the hell are you writting in english? The answer is simple, because I feel like it! And no other reason! xD

So i think this is enough for an introduction.

Cya later.

Fen