Choices

author : WiciaQ @ deviantart

All of our lives revolve around choices. We wake up, every day, and we are haunted by several choices. Some of them are easy, such as which clothes shall I wear today? Relatively speaking of course. But simple action as these may lead to different (and sometimes disastrous) results. Because if, for example, today I choose to stay five more minutes in bed, therefore when I leave home, I see a huge accident in my way. That could've been me, were I not sleepy. Then again, because I was sleepy, I may step on the gas, and a truck hit me or something. This wouldn't have happened if I had woken up on time, right?
Then it's all about making the right ones? But the real question is, how do we know the right from the wrong? We cannot predict the future, there's no certainty to what ever we chose to be the right choice. There's always room for doubt, isn't there?

I find that the most useless expression we have is the 'what if' expression. 'What if I had paid more attention? What if I had listened harder? What if I was better?' I think that it's no use to think on what could've been, because then we can lose ourselves in this line of thought. There's a huge spider web of non-fulfilled possibilities, but there's only one line that matters. The ones that did happen. There's no point in looking back and wondering if we should had done differently, what's done is done.

So what am I really saying here? No, I'm not saying not to think your choices through, because that's just plain irresponsible. What I'm trying to say here is this. Weight them well. Think them through, Re-think if you must. It's your life after all. But don't get caught in the mistake of wondering back. The road back is a road that leads to nowhere. Don't be afraid to choose wrongly, because, ultimately there are no wrong choices. Whatever you choose (for better or worse), is your choice, your life, therefore its the right choice. And only time can tell the true results of your choices. And if it proves to not have been the best, well, that's life. And we can only live forward isn't it?

And what of destiny? Pre-chose life? The concept that no matter what we choose, we will end where someone chose us to be. Well, I like to think that I'm in control of my own actions, and therefore what ever I chose, its my choice, not some pre-arranged choice some higher deity did for me at the time of my birth (or even earlier who knows?). Yes, this may sound rather arrogant, but this is my belief. And I think an explanation of my beliefs is due here, so yes, I think that this world was created by some external force (God, perhaps?), because this (and by this i do mean Everything) fits too well for being a random chain of events. Physics, Chemistry, Maths, it's all just too perfect to be random. It fit's too well. So I'm 'forced' to believe that something higher than us made this. But I think that this is where this 'God'(Let's just call him God, for lack of a better word) intervention stopped. He created universe and then just left it on 'autopilot', left us to rule us. So , due to this belief, I refuse to accept destiny. Whatever choices we make are our own. We get to decide our lives. Wouldn't it be rather hopeless if we didn't? What was the meaning then?

Bottom line. Whenever there's a choice to make, stop, think, do it. And don't look back. Forward is the only way now.

Cya later.

Fen

The so called END

They say all good things come to an end right? It's "the way of life", "the way things are", and I got to question, why? Why must all good things end? Wouldn't it be great to reach some sort of happiness state and just freeze there? A never ending awesome moment?

I think not, because in life we need contrast. How can we appreciate what's good if we don't know what's bad? If I were to stay forever in a "never ending awesome moment", I believe that moment would no longer be awesome, just plain boring.
In those moments of sadness, we flee to the memories of a better time, therefore appreciating them more, even because they are gone. We can never get enough good moments, but we need the bad ones (unfortunately) to appreciate them well.
A perfect life wouldn't be perfect if there were no sad times in it. And no, I don't think this is a paradox. Perfect (in my book) just isn't good straight on. Its a lot of good moments followed by some (hopefully tiny) bad ones.
So good moments must end for us to appreciate them? This sounds rather stupid of our part. We have a good moment, not enjoying it while it's there , and when it's gone, we appreciate it the most?
Again, I don't think so. It's because we enjoy that moment, while it's there, that we appreciate it when it's not. We know that was good. We flee there when we must. We remember.
And this lead me to think about death. because that's the ultimate bad moment, the ultimate end. Well, depends on your belief.

So I'm sitting here, thinking about "what if no one died?" . Well, the first image that come to my head, is of an overcrowded world, full of greedy people, trying to conquer space, because simply there was not enough room for us all down here, on this "little" planet earth. And this I know, where mankind touches, mankind corrupts. So I guess this is one of the reasons why this (good?)thing called life must end.
It would be good not to die, right? Stay here forever? See mankind destroy the world over and over again? See nations rise and fall? I don't think so. There's a reason why people have such "limited" lifespans, and I tend to think that if we were immortal, we would lose interest in life itself. It's like I said earlier, we need contrast. We appreciate life because it ends.
Then it's inevitable, we must die. This does sound rather hopeless, I agree to that. And if we look around, to avoid this hopelessness, we see so many theories. Heaven (and therefore Hell)and Reincarnation are just some examples. We can not accept the end, something so final. And personally, I can not as well. I believe people do go somewhere when they die, and it must be good. Why? Because no one came back yet. (Sorry if this dark humor hurt someone, it was not my intention).

So, all I really got to say, after all this babling around is this : Life is indeed short. Life has indeed some bad moments. But I think that if we live each day fully, trying to do our best, beeing true to ourselves, I think we have all it takes to make a good life, full of good moments, so when tose bad ones come around now and then, we are prepared for them, we have all those good moments to help us go through that!

So enjoy! Do it rather than don't. There's no turning back you know? No second chance? So we might as well do it right!



Cya later

Fen